In the first part of this discussion, we explored what PDA is. We discussed its pros and cons and cultural perspectives on public affection. There’s still more to unpack. How do we decide what’s acceptable? Where do we draw the line?

In this second part, we’ll dive deeper into appropriate vs. inappropriate PDA, how different environments affect PDA, and how social media has reshaped public affection.

What is Acceptable PDA?

While love is a universal language, the way it is expressed in public varies across societies. Here’s a rough guide to what’s generally acceptable and what cross the line:

Mild PDA (Generally Acceptable in Most Places)

✅ Holding hands

✅ A quick hug

✅ A light kiss on the cheek or forehead

✅ Gentle arm around the shoulder or waist

Moderate PDA (Context-Dependent)

⚠️ Prolonged hugging

⚠️ A short kiss on the lips (okay in some places, awkward in others)

⚠️ Whispering intimately into someone’s ear in a way that makes others uncomfortable.

Intense PDA (Considered Inappropriate in Most Public Spaces)

❌ Deep kissing or making out

❌ Groping or inappropriate touching

❌ Lying down on each other in public places

❌ Any display that makes others feel like they’re intruding on a private moment should be avoided. It’s important to read the room, culture, and social setting before engaging in PDA.

What might be romantic at a park could feel out of place in a formal event or religious space.

How Different Environments Affect PDA1.

1. Public Transport

Public transport (buses, trains, flights) is a shared space where people are often stressed, tired, or in close quarters. A little hand-holding? Fine. A long make-out session? To irritate fellow passengers.

2. Restaurants & Cafés Dining spots: have mixed rules. A casual peck or a touch across the table is fine. Yet, excessive intimacy can be uncomfortable for those dining nearby.

3. Religious Places & Offices:

Churches, mosques, temples, and workplaces are generally no-PDA zones. Even hand-holding might be considered too much in these settings.

4. Concerts, Festivals & Parks:

These places are more relaxed when it comes to PDA. However, even in these settings, over-the-top intimacy can still draw stares and disapproval.

5. Weddings & Family Gatherings:

While love is celebrated at weddings, it’s important to remember the focus is on the couple getting married. Mild affection is acceptable, but anything beyond that can be seen as disrespectful.

How Social Media Has Changed PDA

PDA is no longer just a public-space issue—it has extended into the digital world. Couples post romantic pictures, love notes, and even intimate moments online, leading to debates about what should remain private.

Pros of Digital PDA:

It allows couples to express love and appreciation for each other.It can inspire others to celebrate love.It helps long-distance couples feel connected.

Cons of Digital PDA:

It can feel performative rather than genuine.Some people use it to seek validation rather than express real emotions. It can make others feel pressured about their own relationships.A good rule of thumb: If you wouldn’t do it in public, don’t post it online.

Final Thoughts:

The Art of Subtlety

PDA is ultimately about balance-expressing love without making others uncomfortable. The best approach is to be considerate, read the room, and respect cultural norms. Love should be shared, but it doesn’t always have to be on full display.

What’s your personal stance on PDA? Do you think society is becoming too sensitive, or do you agree with setting limits? Let’s continue the conversation!